Therapy

Ethical Framework

As a therapist I work within the ethical framework of both the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association. 

Our work together is always governed by codes of confidentiality which I will discuss with you before we begin.

My intention is to offer a warm, non-judgmental  and confidential safe space for you to gather your thoughts and work through your issues.    

We will work through whatever problems you bring or feelings that come up for you. With the intention that you access the inner resources that you may have lost touch with.

All my appointments are strictly confidential and our work can be as long or as short as you feel necessary.  This will be reviewed regularly as we proceed.

How can I help?

Some of the reasons you may consider coming to therapy:

Problems with anger

Relationship problems

Increased self-awareness / self-confidence / self-esteem

Emotional healing

Discussing choices you have made or are about to make

Dealing with a life-changing event - loss

Dependencies - alcohol / drug / food / medication 

Decline of physical health

Testimonials

‘I started seeing Carolann about 2 years ago to work through some issues I was having in my personal life. Her approach, her amazing ability to listen without judgment, her inmensurable kindness and advice have seen me pull through and face my demons without the fear I always had.  Carolann is, in a word, amazing and I would not hesitate in recommending her to anyone seeking help’

Client, Sussex, UK

‘My time in counselling with Carolann was a rich journey of huge depth and self exploration for me spanning a few years. Through her professional and natural ability to offer and hold the therapeutic space for me with whatever I brought to the sessions, I experienced a genuine acceptance and understanding in all of my being, inviting me to enter into a process of deep self healing’

Client – Surrey, UK

‘From a woman who has tried and tested some of the UK’s leading therapists…….. You are simply fantastic!’

Michelle Zelli – Executive and Personal Coach

 

Michelle Zelli

More about my approach to therapy

My background is informed by the work of Carl Rogers and his Person Centred approach, which puts the client’s natural drive for growth, the importance of autonomy, and the quality of the therapeutic relationship at the forefront of the practise.

Even though he developed his theories way back in the 40’s and 50’s, it’s my belief that his understanding of the human organism with it’s innate potential for growth, given the right conditions of empathy, warmth and authenticity within the relationship bears out through the very latest findings of modern neuroscience, attachment theory, trauma informed practise.

Before he died, Rogers spoke often about the power of presence in his work, and it seems that he was exploring the effects of sitting in loving, mindful presence with his clients.

More recently my studies have included a body based psychotherapy model called Hakomi and Gabor Mate’s Compassionate Inquiry.  Both are methods of self discovery, and both have a heavy emphasis on organicity, loving presence and mindfulness.

Other Offerings

It may be that straight forward talk therapy is what you need, a safe place to be, a trusted confidante, a therapist to help you offload, work through things and find a way forward

It may otherwise suit you to in work in a more mindful body oriented way as with Hakomi, and Compassionate Inquiry.   This type    of self study helps uncover unconscious material that is limiting your sense of self and your beliefs about the world .

You might like to take walks in nature whilst exploring the issues, get the body moving, releasing the stress this way.

A really useful part of therapy is to discuss therapeutic lifestyle changes.  There are so many things you can do to help yourself……physical, emotional and mental health are all connected, and having a plan to address aspects of each regularly can put you back on track to a better life quickly and cheaply

Psycho-education is another valuable tool. Having an understanding of the brain, how we develop and what happens when things go wrong, can minimize the self blame we often feel about our perceived inadequacies.

Please also see specific information about mindfulness and its truly incredible benefits

If you would like more information about therapy or workshops please get in touch using the simple form below:

 

How Trauma Can effect Us All

There is a phrase ‘your biography becomes your biology’. Science understands clearly now how traumatic events and deficits in our early care shape our brains and leave us to face life and its inevitable adversities without emotional, psychological and physical resilience.

We can experience trauma not just from extreme, life threatening events, like the ones we imagine effect soldiers on the battlefield, but with anything that is overwhelmingly stressful to to us as a unique individual and sends us into the fight, flight or freeze response. For children, threatening behaviour from adults, parents fighting, death in the family, disruption, separation, addictive or depressed parents, divorce, bullying, constant criticism, are all sources of trauma.

Our bodies react to such adversity by sending stress hormones through the body, preparing us for fight or flight or in extreme cases to freeze. But because our brains and immune systems are in a state of development, this constant barrage of stress hormones results in us having a permanently high level response to stress.

So we walk into our lives on high alert, with high reactivity to threats of all kinds, expecting the worse, and thus often finding it. We experience ourselves triggered in relationships, angered by events, constantly fearful, lost, confused and unable to deal with situations in a thoughtful, rational way.

More obviously harmful events such as physical or sexual abuse and neglect may have sent us into the freeze response, where memories of the event are stored unprocessed in the limbic brain areas and can emerge in later life as symptoms of PTSD and dissociative disorders.

Isn't it easy to see from this how we can end up spiralling into life feeling like a failure? We keep getting into the same scrapes again and again, making the same mistakes, doing things we don't want to do, letting ourselves down. The worse part of this is that inevitably we make the assumption, that because we feel so bad and act so badly, that we are bad. Nothing could be further from the truth, and more important to realise.

Self doubt, self hatred, shame are the other side of this double edge sword…..the disappointment in ourselves for not being able to handle our problems.

If you suffer from any of the following, then it is likely that you faced difficult situations in childhood that you were unequipped to deal with, and which left you vulnerable:

Addiction

Self harm

Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

Anxiety and depressive disorders

Borderline personality disorder

Bi polar

Attachment disorders

Dissociative disorders such as DID

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorders

Obsessive compulsive disorder